Over to you – Pornography and the Sex Industry Has it affected your family?

This is not intended to be a man bashing piece, this piece is written based on experience, based on what I have seen. I know that Loyal and Righteous men exist but those numbers are dwindling fast. To many times I have felt the gut wrenching hurt of being the girl whose significant other would rather watch porn than live up to some sort of moral code, when did we become so weak? Have we as people always been this way? Is it a case of curiosity? I have heard every reason under the sun, am I being to self righteous?

I still think if you use the 14 words, or quote the Nine Noble Virtues, if you have held your wives hand as she gave birth to your children, cried when your child let out their first cry, then please tell me how you think it’s OK to watch people degrade one another sexually for money? Please tell me how you watch people do something that you and your wife did to create your child? Please tell me how even after your Wife cried over this you still watched it? Tell me how???

Gone are the days when we thought of pornography the image of the seedy fat guy in his basement with a box of pornographic VHS tapes popped up, gone are the days when men went into strip clubs under the dark of night. In 2010 we can go online and view the seediest nastiest pornographic videos for FREE, if you go on some sites you get those nasty pornographic pop ups. If you go on facebook all you see is half dressed females doing stupid poses to attract men, if you go anywhere online that’s all you seem to see..

Our Men now go to Strip clubs for lunch with the boys and can easily spend a hundred dollars to have someone’s daughter rub up on them for 20 minutes, or sit there while some girl whispers sweet nothings to them. Maybe as this is happening his wife is singing to their daughter, or watching her sleep and dreaming big dreams for her future, will she be a Doctor? a school teacher? a Mother? the same day dreams many mothers have had for their daughters, maybe the same daughter a mother once sang too and held so tightly to keep her safe is now grinding on you.

When we the Women voice an opinion on it we are told we nag, complain, we are Feminists, we are probably fat and ugly, we are judgemental, you name it and I’m sure one of you at some point has been told one of the above.

I go online and talk to my family, read, check emails, I have a sex drive too but I don’t feel the need to participate or support a business that has caused men to become sexually depraved fools with out of controls ideal’s about what women are, or what women should be doing in the bedroom, what we should look like, because in all reality most of women reading this are now mothers, your body has changed and your body now shows the marks of Motherhood, why aren’t each of you being cherished each and everyday?

Dads look at your daughter and envision her future, what do you see? Did you know that every second $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography. Every second 28,258 internet users are viewing pornography. Every second 372 internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines. Every 39 minutes a new pornographic video is being created in the United States. Someone’s daughter is partaking in it, what is going to keep your daughter from doing it? You watch it, You pay women to dance for you, You give websites the hits they need in order to get advertisers interested in their sites, so tell me how are you going to protect your daughter when you take advantage of someone else’s daughter?

Often Internet pornography is more addictive than ordinary pornography because of its wide availability, explicit nature, and the privacy that online viewing offers. I know from experience that people regularly spend extended periods of time searching the internet for new or increasingly hardcore pornography as their lusts for seedier videos increases with each click of the mouse. Unless you’re deaf and blind, it’s hard not to notice how porn has invaded our culture.

Now for this issue of HomeFronts Over To You, has Pornography and the Sex Industry in general affected your family?

Responses…

Too often, a woman’s value is estimated by sex. Specifically, the extent to which a man wants to have it with her. If we’re not going to change that, we might as well put porn on every channel and every station. I would love to have a daughter one day, but I can only imagine how difficult it will be to help her navigate her way through all of the trash that’s promoted by mainstream society as “feminine” or the depiction of a “strong woman” because ultimately, these images serve to make us weak.

I think that everyone in society is damaged. I also think it’s likely that that’s always been the case, whatever the cause. Today, we have a society that values sex and hedonism in general. It’s not perfect, but that’s what we have. For that reason, I can’t condemn people who watch porn. (For that reason I don’t condemn a lot of people.) They’ve lived their own lives surrounded by the cheap garbage, smut, and pseudo smut that passes for an entertainment industry in western civilization these days. I know that I’ve been affected by it, and I think all exposed to it are.

The worst thing that pornography, in particular, does is drive a wedge in between families. It’s something people should probably honestly sort out before consummating their courtship but, again, we don’t live in a perfect world. Understandably, it will always be a point of contention between two people who feel differently about it. If everyone were a little more forthcoming about their imperfections and the things they truly value, we’d probably do a lot better as a movement and as a people in general. Instead, we have a bunch of liars posing and trying to act righteous all the time. How can we own tomorrow if we can’t even own who we are today?

What do we look for in a mate anyway? We date people that listen to the same music as us, watch the same movies and television programs, wear the same style of clothes. Besides the fact that we judge potential mates based on what type of leisure activities they enjoy (as if we would spend our lives in leisurely pursuits), it can really prevent us from looking deeper into what we value as individuals and what values we want to find in our mates. That’s probably the worst thing the sex industry (and its arm in the everyday media) does to us. It damages our ability to form healthy relationships based on things that really matter.

Misty WI

Pornography and the sex industry has not affected me or my family but I am very passionately opposed to it. I believe that pornography and prostitution are Jewish industries and that they are destructive to the family, not to mention degrading to White women.

BreannaFand Canada

My first husband was obsessed with it. It was pretty consuming for him. It was disturbing for me to see him that way. I think it really did affect the marriage.

Frau-Rothaarige USA

It has not affected my family, but it has affected me as a young woman. Unfortunately a lot of young women now are under the pressure to behave and be as “skilled” as a “porn star” in the bedroom to keep a man, because if they don’t there are plenty of women who will. The easy availability of hard core pornography at really young ages is also rotting the brains of young boys, if a young boy has been viewing this type of pornography frequently from say the age of nine or ten and has say a first sexual experience at eighteen that’s a hell of imagery that can potentially can be viewed. The problem is that in pornography extreme sexual acts become normalised, and any sexual act that does not have say anal sex, oral sex, a** to mouth or a threesome would become rather bland to a boy (or potentially a girl) who has been brought up where that kind of behaviour. This leads to very high expectations and puts a lot of pressure on the individuals partner if, he or she is not willing to partake in certain extreme sexual activities, and this leads to unnecessary marriage and relationship problems.

To add to this, I am also sick and tired of those arguments, that say its always been around. Yes nobody is going to deny that erotic art and nudity in art is nothing new, but its a far cry from what is available on the internet. The other argument, I only watch white people having sex, yes because you can guarantee that those “porn stars” only have sex with white performers.

Miss Kat Melbourne, Australia

It hasn’t affected my life, thankfully, because I I’ve made my opinion about it known to my husband. I strongly believe that it’s unhealthy and don’t want it in my home. My son, who is only 3 mos old, will know this, too, when the time comes. Sex should be between one man & one woman who love each other. Period.

Zoe USA

Several years ago my daughter made friends with a classmate. The child was always dirty (clothes, hair, face, hands), clothes barely fit and was always hungry. I learned that the mother had 6 children from newborn to 12. The husband apparently began to look at online porn and it became an obsession. The house fell into disrepair. He would stay up late and soon lost his job. He removed himself from the family and didn’t help to care for the children or even interact with them. He met a woman online from another state and walked out on his family to be with her.

The mother didn’t have a job, couldn’t afford daycare for the kids, and couldn’t pay the mortgage. There was no food, no clothes, and in the middle of the winter, no heat. I did what I could to help and arranged for the mom to meet with some churches and agencies to provide resources. I was on the verge of moving the entire family into my home with my children when I became aware of some very sexually inappropriate behaviours of the young children. I immediately disengaged and cut ties in order to protect *my* family, but it was still a heart-breaking situation. I’m not sure what the kids saw or what was modelled for or done to them, but I’m sure the porn had everything to do with it.

Sile USA

Many things are illegal – child abuse, wife abuse, drugs – yet that does not stop them from happening all the time.

I think individual WNs can choose not to use the product, much like with drugs. Since the porn industry is geared almost exclusively to men, WN men can choose not to look at it and WN households can decide it will never be part of their family home.

WN men can start encouraging other rites of passage for boys – how pathetic is it to look forward to getting to see a naked woman in a magazine? Many boys believe they are missing out if they don’t get to look at one or go to a strip club.

Mary USA

Believe me when I tell you this, I’d rather put a 12 gauge in my mouth and pull the trigger than to become a porn actor. It is a humiliating “trade”, no wonder all those guys killed themselves. In principle, it’s the same thing as prostitution.

However, I’d be branded a “fag” by a lot of men out there for saying this. Because, you know, being a man isn’t about being strong or brave, it’s simply about how many sluts you can hump.

Deep down inside everyone knows that debauchery is humiliating. It may be “cool” at first, but once you’re into it, it gets more clear by the day that what you’re doing simply isn’t “cool” at all. Then it all reaches a breaking point, sooner or later. That’s the cold hard truth.

FBInfiltrator USA

I’m pretty sure my Psychology textbook said that men are more likely to be violent after watching violent porn, and that women in the porn often undermine their own relationship with their current girlfriend.

So yeah, I think it can be pretty destructive, although it has not affected anyone I know.

AryanBolt Florida

It probably affects us all whether we know it or not considering its a multi-million dollar industry annually and Zog uses it to bankroll their other schemes.

I define porn as “the act” and it destroys the capacity for intimacy, its also almost always mentioned in “causes of divorce” lists.

In my opinion, it is every bit as destructive to the family unit as Jewish Feminism.

WolfsCompass USA

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